so as it turns out the topic of my uncle divorcing a wife and then having his girlfriend at my shower seemed to be a popular one amongst a few people. i wonder why this is... is it because we are talking about a divorce within an asian family? is it because the girlfriend is white? is it because the exwife is present? maybe a combo of all 3?

my family has had a few divorces and some other ones involve caucasian women so maybe this doesnt phase me as being particular. i am not sure what seemed to ignite curiosity from other people. if someone asked, "who is that?" the answer will never be "jessica's aunt". it will always be "jessica aunt who is divorced from her uncle. and thats his white girlfriend over there". is this a normal reaction? or a gossipy one? if it were me and i attended someones shower other than family, i dont think i would even care whos who. i never went to a shower before where i wondered who was who. i just spoke to who i knew and who i was introduced to. is it just me? if i went to someone elses shower, why would i care who this stranger is married or not married to?

what i can understand is maybe the fact that my aunt is there at the same time as the girlfriend. but this is my aunt ive known since i wsa a baby. we were close and she spent every sunday with us. even lived with us for 1 year while their house was being renovated. i consider the girlfriend to be the "outsider", not my aunt. my aunt is invited to all our family occassions... just because shes divorced, does that mean she shouldnt be allowed? some say yes, some say no. this is how my family chooses to do things, so not sure why it is anyone elses business.

i guess im just trying to understand why this caused such a stir....if my family dont care, then why does anyone else? the funny thing is, it seemed to be a topic of conversation but every version i heard had something untrue as a part of it. this annoys me even more, cuz if you're gonna talk, at least get the facts straight. right?